Safety & Consent

Draft — not yet reviewed by a lawyer. This wording was written in-house and is accurate about how the site behaves, but it has not been checked by anyone qualified. Passages in [SQUARE BRACKETS] are decisions still to be made.

This is not a legal document. It is what we ask of everyone here.

Consent

Consent is enthusiastic, specific, and current. It is not implied by someone's profile, their photographs, their attendance at an event, or anything they agreed to before.

Anyone can withdraw consent at any moment, for any reason or none, including halfway through. When that happens, everything stops. There is no discussion to be had about it.

Meeting people

Meet somewhere public first, if you can.
Tell somebody you trust where you are going and when you expect to be back.
Arrange your own transport, and keep the means to leave.
Trust your instincts. Leaving early needs no justification and costs you nothing here.

Photographs and privacy

Many members have a great deal to lose from being identified. Treat everything you see as confidential.

Never screenshot, copy, download or reshare another member's photographs or messages.
Never photograph anyone at an event without asking first, every time.
Never identify another member to anyone outside this community.

Sharing another member's content outside this platform will end your membership immediately, and may be unlawful.

Blocking

You can block anyone from their profile. It takes effect at once, it is not announced, and it works in both directions — a blocked member cannot see you, and you will not see them.

Reporting

Report anything that crosses a line, including anything you are unsure about. Reports are read by a person.

If someone is in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services first. We are not an emergency service.

What we will not tolerate

Anyone under 18, anywhere, in any form.
Pressure, coercion, or continuing after consent has been withdrawn.
Recording or photographing without consent.
Sharing member content outside this community.
Contacting someone who has blocked you.

These end a membership. There is no warning and no refund.